What if you really can? What if it were free?
Sit with that reality for a moment—that you can have the body you love today.
If you have been hating your body for a long time, it might take a week, maybe more, but you can love the body you have. You may be thinking “Yeah, sure, fine, old man, I will love my body now, but I would love it more if…”. Think of how you love a child. You don’t say, “I love them, but I would love them more if they would sleep better or communicate better when they get mad.”
I will love my body when… I lose X number of pounds, get in better shape, fit in to X size. If you do get to that specific weight
, size, etc., there is a good chance that the target will get moved or a new requirement will get added. Have you ever in your life been that shape or size? Did you love your body then?
If you are married: If you don’t appreciate your body, how can your spouse? If you don’t love your body, it shows even if it is not verbalized.
If you are single: Do you think you need to be a different shape/size to date or attract a person? Look around. It’s not true. People of all sizes are in relationships. More importantly, do you want to be in a relationship with someone that only would date you because of your size?
It is fine if you want to lose weight or increase your exercise as these can be healthy goals. The question is: How are you going to do loving things for your body, like give it good quality food and movement if you don’t love it? It is a greater challenge to do loving things for someone that you don’t love.
Think of all the things our bodies have done for us—in spite of all the things we have done to our bodies and all the things our world and environment has done to our bodies. They are quite amazing.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. (Lao Tzu)
Take the first step to be kind to yourself and love your body right where it is today. See where that journey goes.